Category: Memories

  • New Book by Wendy Ruth

    New Book by Wendy Ruth

    I am so excited to share that my new book has been released! I narrated the audiobook as well. Both are out just in time for Mother’s Day! The print copy is available now on Amazon at the link above (special introductory price) and, for you audiobook fans, it’s also available on Audible. Prime members,

    For my friends and family – and those who have spent any time on headset with me – the animated storytelling and ironic asides will be very familiar. There were times while recording the narration that I teared up or cracked myself up. I hope you will be moved in similar ways. One bonus of the audiobook, friends and family, is that you can TURN IT OFF. This is a feature that my children wish for!

    Not just for new parents, 50 Things to Know About Motherhood – Stories and Truths from a Parent of Twins has a few practical parenting tips, some advice from experts that I found helpful, and examples of what it means to be a mother. At this point in my life and in the lives of my twins, I needed to talk about raising teenagers. I often contemplate how my own view of myself as a parent has changed over the last 16 years, and I have a feeling that many parents feel the same way. I mean, parents, be honest – when someone asks, “how are you doing?” how often do you start talking about your kids? One thing that I want to say with this book is that it’s okay to put yourself first. I welcome discourse on this idea. Drop me a note here on the blog or in the reviews on Audible or Amazon.

    Motherhood isn’t what it used to be – do you agree?

    This “50 tips” format allowed me to share facts in some sections, expound on others, and share stories in the style of personal essays. It’s different than the narrative stories I typically write, or the scripts for live performance, but I’m really proud of how it turned out. Thanks to Lisa Rusczyk at CZYK Publishing for the opportunity to share these stories. I was working on the personal essay format during quarantime and was thrilled that she accepted my proposal for this book. CZYK also published my travel guide last year, Greater Than A Tourist – 50 Travel Tips from a Local – Anaheim, CA. It’s full of stories and favorite things about the place I have lived and worked for many years.

    I’m very thankful to Dan Barsky and Carmina Manley for their assistance in creating the audiobook. Dan’s expertise in engineering and familiarity with ACX, the platform for Audible, made this foray so much easier. Check out Carmina’s voice work at https://www.carminamanleyvoiceovers.com – she’s a skilled narrator and voiceover artist! Her advice and encouragement got me started down this road and gave me confidence that it was something I could do. I’m very fortunate to have talented friends who were willing to help me during their own quarantime!

    If you’ve read this far and appreciate this post, please give me a “like” below or drop a comment. I’d love to hear from you.

    (NOTE: some links above are affiliate links, meaning that I receive compensation for purchases made through the link)

  • Holiday Recipe 2020

    Holiday Recipe 2020

    Combine with caution.
    • Start with relentless family time. Now that kids are out of school and many places of “non-essential” work are closed through the end of the year, this forms the base of the recipe.
    • Next, continue with waves of exhaustion. These are added at unexpected intervals. Allow to rest when needed.
    • Layer in the uncertainty. If yours is heavy, it will sink into the mix and affect everything else.
    • Add one full cup of holiday cheer.
      • This may take the form of light displays, childhood TV specials, sugary treats, gift-giving, etc.
      • If a full cup of cheer isn’t available due to pandemic, unrest, politics, injustice, or finances (to name a few), scrape together as much as you possibly can. Artificial or “inorganic” cheer may be added in small doses to get you where you need to go.
    •   Pour into large receptacle, mix well by hand.
      • Or use electric mixer and spread it around. You’re free to choose. If you get any on other people then they were standing too close. 
    •  Add a dash of gratitude. Some have this readily available and others may have to dig deep, but this is an essential ingredient.
    • Sprinkle liberally with hope, smiles, charity, to taste.
    • Add some time for yourself.
    • Mix all ingredients thoroughly.

    Serve warm, with ample beverage of choice. Sharing is optional, though this recipe promises to be best experienced with the one (or ones) who love you the most.

    Best of luck with your Holiday 2020. If you started with Hanukkah, you’re well underway, but I recently read that there is a holiday *somewhere* every day through the rest of the year. And SO MUCH else going on in the world. Take it slow. As Jupiter and Saturn come close enough to shine a brilliant light in the sky, just in time for the Winter Solstice, keep your light shining within you. The glow you create with the energy you give is reflected back, with love. Happy Holidays.

  • Transformation – Dr. Lid Desk – continued

    Transformation – Dr. Lid Desk – continued

    The Doctor Lid Desk is almost done!

    The exterior, interior, lid, and drawers are all a lovely, saturated black stain (Varathane Poly +Stain, Black Satin). The lid has been attached with its original hinges, with layers of polyurethane removed. The drawer pulls have been replaced, removing the old brass “colonial” look with a mottled, stamped cast iron model. I spent a little extra on the pulls because I liked them so much!

    New Drawer Pulls – Sturdy & attractive, like me!

    Still need to replace the plate around the keyhole on the lid. The lock is intact but the skeleton key is missing, and it’s not like I will be storing valuables in the desk, but it’s a really cool part of the vintage design. I visited Muff’s Antiques in the Orange Plaza (http://www.muffshardware.com) and my mind was blown with the selection and the artful displays of vintage knobs, slides, locks, hinges, lids, hooks, and more. Oh, and they have skeleton keys, too! They had a variety of keyhole plates in different colors, sizes and finishes, but none leapt out as “the one.” I was able to do a quick assessment of how much my old colonial brass drawer pulls might be worth, though. I wonder if Muff’s would be willing to do a swap…

    The desk is missing one metal arm that pulls out the pieces to support the desk lid, when open. It’s a very simple piece that sits low against the desk, and attaches with screws. So far, we haven’t been able to locate anything similar online or at Muff’s. The owners there suggested a salvage place in LA, and my wife reached out to them via email. No word yet, so we are still looking, and considering hitting up friends who do a little metalworking. It’s a fun treasure hunt, and it won’t hold up the progress.

    Finally, I need to paint the insert. With a lot of elbow grease and determination, the interior letter organizer is almost to a bare wood state. It has taken DAYS. We had even upgraded the stripping agent to the “extra strength,” but it still took some scraping to get the original finish out of the detail work. Sandpaper, razor blade, wire brush, wet, dry, steel wool, you name it, I tried it! With a few hard-to-reach areas and a few stubborn spots left to go, I’m thinking paint will be more forgiving than stain.

    It occurs to me that the furniture I had previously refinished must have had very little detail work. Let’s see…patio furniture, picnic table, wooden couch frame by IKEA, early-American style dresser, and my first parentally-assigned effort, a faded ping-pong table…yep, nope…lots of flat surfaces and nary a beveled edge in the lot. The extra work is fine, though. The attention to detail is good for me.

    While working on the desk, I’ve been listening to Elizabeth Gilbert read her book, Big Magic. Her soothing voice and gentle chuckle accompany me as I scrape and stain. Her ideas of how to lead a “creative life” are coming at just the right time. While staying safely at home and furloughed from work due to the pandemic, I have time to consider what I’d like my life to be like, when and if things return to “normal.” The repeated motion of sanding, scraping, and brushing is hypnotic, contemplative, and allows me to quiet the rest of my mind and hear her words. I don’t have to drive my kids somewhere, there’s no video meeting I must attend, and my wife is on duty for making dinner tonight. In the book, Liz Gilbert focuses mostly on her writing, her process, and draws parallels of what the listener (or reader) could do to lead a more creative life. Mind freed by repetitive motion and lack of obligation, I’m able to hear and understand, and to apply some ideas as she says them. For example, her mother’s adage that it’s better to have something “done” than to have it “done perfectly” allowed me to accept some imperfections in the desk lid and call it “done.” Liz’s own assertion that ideas are separate entities sounds perfectly reasonable when I need to stop sanding or staining and type an idea into my Notes app, or take time to write down last night’s dream before I continue working on the desk on a given day. I have often had the distinct sense of an idea “hitting” me – actually, this will be a blog post at a later time – and Gilbert’s discussion of this theory keeps me focused and sanding for the better part of an afternoon. This influx, this permission, to do something differently and explore my own vision is infused in this desk restoration, and both the desk and I are better for it.

    I think I’ll paint the organizer a different color than black. It’ll be a cool surprise when the lid is opened. My daughter pointed out that a lighter color would camouflage any letters in the organizer, while a dark color would make them stand out – an aspect I hadn’t considered at all. Hmmm… I happen to have a warm gray leftover from a past home improvement project, but you know what? There’s also a can of purple!

    It’s what’s on the inside that matters….

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